Friday, January 30, 2009

No Sugar Added

Every friday, i attend this meeting at another institution to talk about what we all day everyday, science. anywho, i always get a cup of hot chocolate to drink during the morning meeting. well to my initial disgust, all that was left was a hot cocoa packet that read "no sugar added". WHAT? i was in utter disbelief! anywho, after i got over my initial shock, i decided to indulge anyway. i was thinking, could it be that bad? you know, "no sugar added". to my surprise, i couldn't taste a difference at all. it tasted just as the "sugar added" hot cocoa i usually drink.

Why is this important? it's really not. it just got me to thinking...maybe this is how women sometimes view men. they're looking for the package with all the flashy and appetizing "additives", like sugar. thinking that if he don't have this or don't wear that, he'll be a waste of time and definitely leave a bad taste in your mouth. but just like my hot cocoa epiphany this morning, women wrongly jump to conclusions. did you ever think that sometimes men exploit all these "additives" because they're really afraid of what they would "taste" like without them. they don't have any self-confidence. fear driven arrogance (the absolute worst kind). sometimes the men with the least can give you the most. they are simple, plain and pure, "no sugar added".

So ladies, next time you're left with the choice of "sugar" versus "no sugar", think about it first. you might be surprised. sometimes less is definitely more. AND could be better for your health! i mean when you get right down to it, chocolate in its purest form is a rich treat...

Thursday, January 22, 2009


I'm not sure what to title this blog because i have no idea what it is going to be about. i don't have any nice things to say about Hot Chocolate today. today (this week) has been not that great. except for the phenomenal history that was made this Tuesday! maybe i can talk about that...

So many of my elders never thought they'd see the day that the United States of America would elect a African American President. but many of them, by God's grace, saw it in living color this past Tuesday. it's real. no hoax about it. but my excitement comes from the fact that we have a Hot Chocolate 1st Family! it's amazing!!! and they are beautiful!

So i guess i'll title this blog "marinate" because that's what i'll be doing for a while. just marinating on the fact that God is good and i am indeed blessed to be an American...

It is definitely Hot...

Friday, January 16, 2009

Hot Chocolate, Please!

If there was ever a day when i needed a cup of hot chocolate, today would be today! it's approximately 20 degrees here (windchill factor not included). i'm dreading leaving my building and walking to my car.

I'll tell you what though. there is nothing like the feeling of warmth and security you get when you are tangled up in the arms of a Hot, Black man? honey, indescribable. this is definitely one of the many highlights of our male counterparts. it's instant heat. it's just something that is so welcoming and soothing about the touch. the next time you are there, just experience it. his chest, his breath, his scent. it's all apart of the adventure. i like to think of it as an escape from the cold and harsh realities of the world. wonderful treasure!

So fellas, thanks for the warmth. the strength. the comfort. the security.

As i bundle up to enter into the hawk that is outside of my door, i'll just close my eyes and think of that irreplaceable warmth and satisfaction...

Kind of like a nice steaming cup of hot chocolate!

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

My 1st Love

It's been a minute, this i know. after much harassment and dirty looks from "Like A Dream" (a fellow blogger), i decided to get on the good foot and jot down my thoughts for the day.

My 1st love. i think everyone remembers their 1st love. the 1st time their hearts were just a pile of puddy and everything was definitely everything! a little while ago, if you asked me "who was your 1st love?" that answer would just roll off my tongue accompanied by a huge smile on my face and a twinkle in my eye (those who know me, know exactly who and what i'm talking about). but like i said, that was a while ago. after some time and trials, i have to retract that answer. the person that you all think i'm talking about is NOT my 1st love. so i know now you're like, "well, who is it?". i'm glad you asked...

About 27 years ago (give or take a few days), i opened my eyes and my heart to the only man that could ever love me the way that i truly wanted and needed. he was my protector, my provider, my pastor, my friend. over the next few years of my life i was blown away! i never wanted for anything. i was his priority. he showed me and taught me everything he knew about love, life and the Lord. i was embraced, celebrated, loved, appreciated. i had anything and everything a girl could dream of!

If you haven't figured it out, i'm talking about MY DADDY! my 1st love. i love my daddy with all that is me. he is so awesome. he definitely gets the "daddy of the year" award from me every year! if you would have asked me a while ago who my 1st love was, i would've approached this issue from another direction. but life has taught me some things and i don't take the lessons she has to teach lightly. each day i can talk to my dad brings me joy. each day i can laugh with my dad brings me joy. each day i can embark on his wisdom brings me joy. i am blessed. i can't believe God loved me sooo much to bring such a beautiful man of God into my life from birth!

The relationship between a father and daughter is priceless. it is indescribable. it is the greatest relationship (besides the one with my Heavenly Father) that i have ever been in. and the best part is it has only just begun. as i continue to live and grow and mature, my relationship with my daddy gets better and better. i can say that he is truly my best friend. the one i can laugh with, cry to and depend on. in summation, the best man i've ever known.

Ladies- i know some of you have never experienced that 1st love experience with your earthly father, BUT i have good news! you have a Heavenly Father that loves you more than my daddy loves me. He is definitely the Man that will give all of your heart desires and love you for who you are, even when you don't love yourself. isn't He amazing. so your 1st love experience is not lost. just call on Him and He will give you that and then some.

And fellas- if you have a little girl (or plan to have one), love her. show her all the ways that a man is supposed to treat her. take her out on dates. open her doors. love her until it hurts. trust me, she will appreciate it more than you know! and then the great reward will be you seeing her blossom into the woman that you prayed for her to be...

i think i'm about to call my 1st love.

i'm out...

Monday, January 5, 2009

In the beginning...

And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. Genesis 1:26

Welcome of Coco's Cafe. This blog is dedicated to all things strong, hot and Chocolate. This is an ode to the Black man...I love everything about him; everything he is and especially everything he is not.

From birth, they are all beautifully and wonderfully made.

And, they should be celebrated for the wonderful creations they are until death.

Gotta love 'em. Right? Right! If you don't mind, I'd like to share with you my thoughts on what I feel is one of the greatest creations this side of heaven. Some may be bitter, some may be sweet, but it's defenitely all in love.

So please, join me. Chat with me. Experience with me. Something strong, hot and Chocolate!